When celebrity moms give birth, the first thing the world likes to fixate on is how she’s going to shed the baby weight. When we’re not busy talking about that, we’re too busy going “awww” at the adorable post-pregnancy photos we see of her and her baby on Instagram. And we think: wow, motherhood is so incredible.
One mom, however, is showing us another realistic side of motherhood that isn’t always rainbows and butterflies. Constance Hall, the 32-year-old blogger from Perth, Australia, who runs The Not So Secret Life Of Us, started 2016 by opening up a discussion on the not-so pretty side of motherhood and marriage with a series of Facebook posts.
In one post, the mother of four saluted the imperfect mom: the mom who didn’t have to constantly watch her kid with hawk eyes, the mom who doesn’t immediately take on the role of caretaker and instead “walks straight out the door for a coffee at her [friend’s]”, the mom who didn’t lose all the baby weight, and the mom who got “a brand new 24 hour job that doesn’t pay and won’t end for around 20 years”. Above all, Hall put the spotlight on women who struggle with postpartum depression.
“To the woman at the doctors surgery, waiting patiently to request some antidepressants, I salute you,” she wrote. “You are still coping, do not confuse depression for not coping, you’ve taken action, you look like a queen to me. Too often strength and weakness are confused, strength is asking for help.
“You are so strong,” she told these women. “So many women are going through the exact same thing, they just don’t talk about it.”
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The post has since gone viral after being posted mid-January with over 281,000 reactions and more than 135,000 shares on Facebook.
This isn’t the first time Hall has gone viral because of her frankness with such issues. According to the Independent, she made international headlines for writing about “parent sex” or how parenthood has affected her sex life.
Hall continues to use social media as a platform and safe space to talk about the imperfections of marriage and motherhood that others go through as well.
One mother wrote in reaction to her post: “I’m mentally, emotionally, and physically exhausted” and added, “Parenthood can be the most isolating job in the world.”
Meanwhile, another said, “As a mother of 8, I can’t tell you how refreshing it is to read your words and think… Hey I’m not a failure.”
Hall continues to empower mothers with the hashtag #likeaqueen which encourages women to post body-positive selfies after she posted a photo of her where she wrote in part, “Love yourself the way you want your daughters, nieces, friends kids to love themselves.”
With Hall shattering the illusion of the perfect mom, perhaps more women will feel comfortable sharing their stories.